Why Is It Weird When Guys Go to the Spa?

Originally talked about on the Greg and Tim show with Jasmin Laine Episode 68 | https://youtu.be/IlixWlylg5E

So picture this: three grown men… at a spa.

No, not reluctantly tagging along with their wives. Not hiding in the corner pretending to be there “by accident.” Nope — full-on boys day at the spa. Robes. Saunas. Sunset selfies. The whole thing.

And you know what? It was glorious.

But here’s the funny part — if women do that? “Best day ever!” If men do it? Suddenly people are raising eyebrows like we just walked into the ladies’ change room by mistake.

Why is that?

The Double Standard of “Girl Trips” vs “Guy Trips”

We’ve got a buddy — let’s call him… “Rhymes With Matthew.” Every year he’s pushing for a guys trip to Mexico. Just the boys. Beaches. Sunshine. Margaritas. (Wait — can guys even say margaritas without losing masculinity points?)

And every time, the response is something like:

“Ahh… I don’t know. That’s more of a ‘thing I do with my wife.’”

Meanwhile, women go on girls-only Vegas trips monthly. They don’t even need a reason. They don’t even need a plan. They just go.

So why is it socially acceptable for women to prioritize friend time… but when men do it, it’s either “weird” or “suspicious”?

Programming. That little voice in our heads that says “Nope, that’s not what guys do.”

Well — maybe it should be.

Spa Bros & Sunset Photos

Back to the spa.

We’re at Clara Elorne — no phones allowed (we ignored that). Four guys. Robes. Steam rooms. Quiet reflection time… punctuated by dad jokes.

And when the sun started going down?

“Boys — we NEED that sunset shot.”

We lined up like we were filming a Nicholas Sparks movie. Honest to goodness? One of the most peaceful, bonding, funny as heck nights we’ve had.

And now we’re talking about taking 15 guys next time.

Is that too many? Probably.

Will only seven actually show up? Definitely.

Will we still take a synchronized spa group photo? Absolutely.

Friendships Change — and That’s Okay

We had a great convo about friendships too. Especially how friend groups evolve as you get older.

When you’re young, you hang out with everyone. Big crews. Party weekends. Endless group chats. But at some point… something shifts.

You wake up one day and go,

“You know what? I don’t even like who I am when I’m around these people.”

So you quietly step away.

You delete half your Facebook friends. You stop saying yes to every invite. You stop performing and start choosing.

And all of a sudden — you’ve got fewer friends… but better ones.

So Here’s the Moral of the Story:

• Guy spa days? Not weird.

• Bro trips? Encouraged.

• Sunset photos with your buddies? Required.

• Outgrowing friend groups? Healthy.

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Maybe the secret to better friendships isn’t acting the way we think we’re supposed to…

Maybe it’s just doing the things that make us feel good — even if that means scheduling a steam room session with your boys and saying:

“Excuse me sir — pass the cucumber water.”

What do you think? Should “Spa Bros” be normalized? Should guys take more trips without hiding behind excuses like golf tournaments and bachelor parties?

Let us know. We’ll be in the sauna.

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Tim, Jasmin and Greg Discussing men going to spas.